Katie Travel dating 17, 2012, 9:42 am july
We agree to you… i dunno. Its difficult. I recently know personally i couldnt just let your ex glare at me personally for no reason… like, sorry woman, be angry at him. We have done absolutely nothing to you. But thats simply the person I will be.
Like i stated, i wouldnt walk out my option to you will need to speak to her, but if she sets the record right using the gf, ideally she’s going to turn her focus through the LW being a problem to your guy being the problem, which can be what is happening.
Katie 17, 2012, 9:50 am july
As well as, just exactly what would you want to bet they talk all the time that he is feeding his new girlfriend the whole “crazy ex” routine to explain why? And was operating into one another actually just a coincidence?
Nadine 17, 2012, 9:52 am july
I will realise why you’d believe that way, it isnt nice to not be liked, but We see the page to be in regards to the LW relationship with ex-BF, perhaps maybe not the ex-BF relationship that is current. Thats just a complicator. The LW can only just get a handle on her very own actions, and ignore the ex-BF calling and being aggravating. New GF to his relationship is none of her company, and honestly, the 2 girls don’t need to be buddies after all. It could you should be an additional url to the man when it comes to LW, who’s attempting to cut ties that are emotional.
Katie 17, 2012, 9:54 am july
Thats an excellent point for sure!
Nadine July 17, 2012, 10:01 am
Oh and god, I hate the crazy ex routine – I familiar with be buddies with this particular selection of dudes whom once had such lady-issues, and all sorts of the girls they dated would get crazy to them after a few weeks and I’d get really astonished, cos they seemed therefore normal in my experience? Then we realised it ended up beingn’t the girls, its the people. Plus the girls had been all people that are just normal, you understand, desired to determine if that they had a boyfriend or not…….
Katie July 17, 2012, 10:04 am
Yea. Its love, as soon as that takes place enough times- what’s the denominator that is common? YOU MIGHT BE!!
I do feel detrimental to this GF that is new. She deserves to possess a guy’s full attention. And she deserves some guy who isnt hung through to his ex, calling her and telling her which he nevertheless longs for her and material. Thats messed up! And she most likely hates the LW because she actually is being told by the guy a couple of crap about her. Its just all incorrect. The whole thing.
Nadine 17, 2012, 10:09 am july
Personally I think bad on her too, but she has to watch out for by herself. Its difficult being the girlfriend that is first a long relationship, but thats generally why a lot of people go into all of them with their eyes available. Oh and the man has to get rid of dropping “But i’ve a girlllllllfriend! ” into conversation. We keep imagining him carrying it out the means the crossdresser does it in minimal Britain, perhaps you have seen that? “Oh, but I’m a layyyyydeee! ”
Bagge72 July 17, 2012, 10:25 am
Yeah that “but I have girlfriend” line is such crap, the LW understands he is just looking for a reaction everytime he says it that he has a GF. He wishes the LW become like “well I don’t care I will still blow you” or “Dump that skank, and come back to me” if you have a GF,
Katie 17, 2012, 10:27 am july
Yea, its like whenever i was in senior school and me and my boyfriend would separation any other week, and then he would “accidently” we would fight and get back together text me or something just so.
Lets_be_honest July 17, 2012, 2:45 pm
@katie, hahaha “just so we would fight to get straight straight back together”
Kerrycontrary July 17, 2012, 10:05 am
I’ve said right here a whole lot, if the guy whips out of the word “crazy” I operate one other method. I’m sure so lots of men whom use that word to full cover up with their dickish behavior.
Will.i.am July 17, 2012, 11:56 am
We don’t know why individuals would phone somebody crazy into the beginning. I simply state we didn’t see eye to eye long-term and then leave it at that. The actual fact on it, makes me think you may be the one that likes to stir the muck that you put a “crazy” label.
Will.i.am July 17, 2012, 11:57 am
Additionally, you could be kinda crazy as well if you are willing to call someone crazy, wouldn’t that mean?
Rilooyah 17, 2012, 4:44 pm july
Therefore real! As soon as the” that is“crazy away, Im running one other method. I believe it absolutely was stated above- whenever you attract the crazy, the typical denominator is always YOU, friend.
Bagge72 July 17, 2012, 10:21 am
To be honest, that it really is partially the LW’s fault, she understands that he could be in this relationship, and she’s knows that when this occurred to her she most likely will be upset about any of it too, yet somehow she will continue to answer this dudes calls despite the fact that he keeps stating that he could be dreaming about her, and all of that bull shit.
Lets_be_honest 17, 2012, 10:26 am july
Yep! We completely agree. LW, simply stop responding to. Don’t talk to the woman since your simply likely to cause drama. You must just understand he’s maybe maybe not your boyfriend and also that you know he has a girlfriend is making you a bad guy in this too though you still like his attention, the fact.
Katie July 17, 2012, 10:35 am
That is a point that is great you dudes. I didnt think about it like this.
So LW, if you truly do respect their relationship and wish them happyness, keep them alone!! Like eljay (I adore you, eljay) said, some body has got to end up being the adult in this example. You have to do it if he is not willing to be.
Painted_lady 17, 2012, 2:17 pm july
Amen bestie – we accept you about talking to your gf. That knows exactly just what this guy has stated concerning the LW to justify their speaking so frequently, but even though the relationship is none of these company, the fact that the LW therefore the girlfriend that is new met now i do believe allows the LW some freedom. That I had heard about and wanted to get along with (I’m going to assume that the LW wants that? ) and it went horribly, I might reach out and go, hey, I’m so sorry that went badly if I had been in a situation where a friend brought someone around. She does not necessarily need certainly to state, “Hey, which means that your boyfriend happens to be saying _____ for me and he’s the main one calling, in which he explained you had been ok with this particular, ” just “Hey, I’m therefore sorry that went defectively, I happened to be beneath the impression you’re ok with this being buddies, but i simply recognized I’m maybe not okay with your being friends either, therefore it’s no problem anymore. ”
Kerrycontrary July 17, 2012, 9:37 am
I’dn’t speak to the gf about that. I would want is their ex of 3 years reaching out to me if I were dating someone for two months the last thing. And merely to share with you you respect her relationship? I’d think you had been bullshitting me personally and playing mind games. Just simply just Take Wendy’s advice and inform your ex partner you don’t would you like to hear them alone from him for a while, and then leave. Truthfully they probably won’t work-out because you will be nevertheless within the photo (which does not do great things for a brand new relationship), but allow them work that out on their own.
Kerrycontrary July 17, 2012, 9:39 am
Oh in addition, if we had been the latest gf and my bf and I also went into their ex at a club i might additionally demand that people leave instantly. It is therefore uncomfortable. Everyone else pretends they can be “mature” and stay buddies with exes and stay completely okay if your SO’s ex appears, but why? You don’t have actually to be okay with being around your boyfriends ex-girlfriend of 36 months.
Bagge72 17, 2012, 10:28 am july